The Heart, Mind and Soul Integration
To have loved someone so deeply that you miss them in totality, is to have let your heart express it’s broadest capacity for love: To love despite not knowing the outcome. Remember, the hearts are boundary-less. They don’t know limits. So when they meet something or someone they love, they give their all. They spread the love towards that person and pour themselves out until someone or something says stop. When we’ve poured ourselves out so fully, we can find ourselves in the certain predicament of aching when we miss what we love. It’s as though the heart sends it’s song out and because the song goes unanswered, it’s left wondering why. Each thump, thump of the heartbeat leaves us asking, why, where, when?
When the heart knows it can lose something, it loves harder than it ever has. It puts all its effort into making sure whatever can be lost knows it feels loved. Then it is up to the mind and soul to once again step in and guard the heart. They guard the heart not against heartbreak or heartache. They are guarding against the potential loss of a heart when it loses the thing or person that it loves. In this act of balance, the heart learns how to trust the soul and mind. It learns how to participate in the integration of all systems as opposed to one above all.
The beauty of the heart, soul and mind all working in unison is that they form a sense of checks and balances. When we give equal attention to all three areas, each feels care for and understood. Thus one doesn’t need to act out to the extreme of demonstrating control in order to be heard or seen. The space of checks and balances means being ahead of the curve when it comes to sensing something that could throw you out of whack. It gives you a chance to prepare as opposed to react.
The system allows us to be as equally unguarded in future love as we are grounded in ourselves. The rooted concept opens us up to receiving love and yet, how often do we not? How often do we say, “I am fine on my own” and not really mean it. How often do we find ourselves in the opportunity to love and be loved and yet we hesitate or resist? Each time we step back and say “not yet, now is not the time” we put our hearts back into the space of loneliness. When we push ourselves to the extreme ends of self-care that almost becomes deprivation, we close ourselves of to the potential love we can receive. But remember, hearts are meant to be loved both by us and by others. To cut off the heart’s ability to be loved by others is to cut ourselves off from 50% of life’s beauty.
Part of the resistance to receiving love lies in the soul’s final protective layer – the persona of validation. As you may recall in the healing journey, many of us have personas we wield to gain attention and interest from others. But as you come closer to yourself you may find that you’ve let go of all the personas except for one.
The persona of validation is the hardest to break because it’s taught the soul that it’s there for protection. It’s the persona that is riled when we get an option for love because the persona says “what will others think of my life if I choose this person?” or “how will my life play out if this individual becomes my person?” Each time the persona pushes away potential love, we are not giving the soul or the heart what they need. In order to open ourselves up to love we must first resolve the conflict between the persona and the soul. We must go back to asking our soul what it needs and noticing when the persona ignores that need in order to please others. The soul has needs, the persona has desires. When we meet our soul’s needs, the persona will soon become unnecessary and fall to the wayside, leaving ample room for love to show up on our doorstep and be receive by our hearts and souls with open arms.
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